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I want to start by telling you two things about myself before I get into the full talk. 在我开始正式的演讲之前, 我想首先告诉你们 关于我的两件事。
And the first is that I've been writing about manners and civility for more than 20 years, as a book author and as a magazine columnist . 第一件事是作为书作者 和杂志专栏作者, 20多年来, 我一直在写关于礼仪和文明的文章。
civility:n.礼貌;礼仪;端庄; columnist:n.专栏作家;
The second is, my friends know to be very wary of inviting me over for dinner because any faux pas that happens at the table is likely to wind up in print. 第二件事是, 我的朋友都知道 邀请我共进晚餐要十分小心, 因为在餐桌前发生的任何失礼 都很有可能被白纸黑字记录下来。
wary:adj.谨慎的;机警的;惟恐的;考虑周到的; faux pas:n.有失检点;失礼;失言;
(Laughter) （笑声）
So, I'm watching, I can see back there and I can see through the portals , too. 所以,我在看,我可以看到后面那, 也可以看到出入口。
see through:adj.透明的;穿透的; portals:n.门户网站;[建]入口;大门(portal的复数);
(Laughter) （笑声）
So, speaking of dinner parties, 所以,谈到晚宴,
I want to take you back to 2015 and a dinner party that I went to. 我想把你们带回到2015年 我去过的一个晚宴。
dinner party:晚宴;
To place this in time, this was when Caitlyn Jenner was first coming out, shedding her identity as a Kardashian and moving into her life as a transgender activist . 具体时间是, 凯特琳·詹娜首次出柜, 脱离她作为卡戴珊家族成员的身份, 并摇身一变成为了 跨性别活动家之时。
shedding:v.去除;摆脱;使落下;掉落(货物);(shed的现在分词) identity:n.身份;同一性,一致;特性;恒等式; transgender:n.跨性别;跨性别者; activist:n.积极分子;激进主义分子;
I wrote a column in People magazine at the time, talking about the importance of names and how names are our identity. 我当时在《人物》杂志上 写了一篇专栏, 谈论名字的重要性, 以及为什么名字即我们的身份。
And that to misuse them or not to use them erases us in a certain way. 还有为什么误用或不用它们 会在某种方式上抹去我们自身。
misuse:vt.滥用;误用;虐待;n.滥用;误用;虐待; erases:v.消除(erase的三单形式);擦除;抹去;
And especially with Caitlyn Jenner, 尤其是对凯特琳·詹纳来说,
especially:adv.尤其;特别;格外;十分;
I talked about Caitlyn, but also the use of her pronouns . 我谈到了凯特琳,也谈到了 在称呼她时所使用的各种代词。
pronouns:n.代词;[语]代名词;
Her pronouns. 各种代词。
So I'm at this dinner -- delicious, wonderful, fun -- when my host goes on a rant about Caitlyn Jenner. 当宴会女主人开始大声嚷嚷着 抱怨起凯特琳·詹纳时, 我正在享用本来可口、美妙、 有趣的晚餐。
rant:vi.咆哮;痛骂;大声责骂;vt.咆哮;痛骂;n.咆哮;激昂的演说;
And she is saying that it is disrespectful for Caitlyn Jenner to force her to use a new name and to use these new pronouns. 她说凯特琳·詹纳很无礼, 因为凯特琳·詹纳强迫她使用一个新名字 还有各种新代词。
disrespectful:adj.无礼的;失礼的;不尊敬的;
She's not buying it, and I'm listening, and because I do meditation , 她可不买账。 我听着她。因为我练习冥想,
meditation:n.冥想;沉思,深思;
I took my sacred pause before I responded . 所以在回应她前我先做了个神圣的停顿。
responded:v.回答,回应;作出反应;响应;反应灵敏;(respond的过去式和过去分词)
(Laughter) （笑声）
And I reminded her that when she got married, she changed her name, and that she took the name of her husband. 我提醒她,当她结婚的时候, 她改了她的名字, 转而冠以夫姓。
reminded:v.提醒;使想起;(remind的过去分词和过去式)
And that's the name all of us now use. 而她改名后的名字也正是 我们现在称呼她用的名字。
We don't use it just because it's her legal name, but we use it because it's respectful. 我们这样做不仅仅是 因为这是她的法定名字, 更是因为这样做才是尊重她的。
legal:adj.法律的;合法的;法定的;
Ditto for Miss Jenner. 同样的道理自然也适用于詹纳小姐。
Ditto:n.同上;同上符号;很相似的人或物;vt.重复;照抄;adv.同上地;adj.相似的;
She didn't buy it and we didn't speak for years. 但她不买账,我们之后几年都不说话。
speak for:要求得到;代表…讲话;
(Laughter) （笑声）
So ... 总之,
I am known as the Civilist. 我被称为文明主义者。
And it's probably a word that you're not that familiar with. 这个词你可能不熟悉。
familiar:adj.熟悉的;常见的;亲近的;n.常客;密友;
It's not in common parlance and it comes from the Latin and the French, and it means an individual who tries to live by a moral code, who is striving to be a good citizen. 它不属于日常用语。 它来自拉丁语和法语。 这个词指一个人试图遵守道德准则, 努力做一个好公民。
parlance:n.说法;用语;语调;发言; Latin:adj.拉丁语的;用拉丁语写成的;n.拉丁语; individual:n.个人;有个性的人;adj.单独的;个别的; moral:n.寓意;品行;教益;adj.道德的;道义上的;道德上的;品行端正的; striving:n.努力;奋斗;v.努力;奋斗;力争;力求;(strive的现在分词)
The word "civility" is derived from that, and the original definition of civility is citizens willing to give of themselves for the good of the city, for the good of the commonwealth , for the larger good. “civility”（文明）这个词来源于它。 而“civility”（文明）这个词的本意是指: 愿意为了城市的利益,为了集体的利益 为了更大的利益而奉献自己的公民。
derived:adj.导出的;衍生的,派生的;v.得到;推断(derive的过去分词);由…而来; original:n.原件;原作;原物;原型;adj.原始的;最初的;独创的;新颖的; definition:n.定义;清晰度;(尤指词典里的词或短语的)释义;解释; commonwealth:n.联邦;共和国;国民整体;
So, in this talk, you're going to learn three new ways to be civil, I hope, and it will be according to the original definition of civility. 那么,在这个演讲中, 你将依照“civility”（文明）的本意, 学到三个新的讲文明的方式,我期望。
according to:根据,据说;
My first problem is: civility is an obsolete word. 我遇到的的第一个问题是: “civility”（文明）是一个过时的词。
obsolete:adj.废弃的;老式的;n.废词;陈腐的人;vt.淘汰;废弃;
My second problem is: civility has become a dirty word in this country. 我遇到的的第二个问题是: “civility”（文明） 在这个国家 已经变成了一个肮脏的词。
And that is whether you lean right or whether you lean left. 它意味着你是右倾还是左倾。
lean:v.前俯(或后仰):倾斜:adj.肉少的:难以赚钱的:贫乏的:n.瘦肉:
And in part, that's because modern usage equates civility with decorum , with formal politeness , formal behavior. 部分原因是由于在现代用法中 “civility”（文明） 等同于礼仪, 表面的礼貌和外在的行为举止,
usage:n.使用;利用;利用率;惯用法; equates:vt.使相等;视为平等;vi.等同; decorum:n.礼仪;礼貌;端正;恪守礼仪; formal:adj.适合正式场合的; n.(美)须穿礼服的社交集会; (口)夜礼服; politeness:n.有礼貌;优雅;
We've gotten away from the idea of citizenship . 而与“citizenship”（公民义务与权利） 切断了联系。
citizenship:n.[法]公民身份,公民资格;国籍;公民权;
So, let me start by talking a little bit about my friends on the right, who have conflated civility with what they call political correctness . 那么,让我先谈谈我的右派朋友们。 他们把“civility”（文明）和一个他们称之为 “政治正确”的东西混淆了起来。
conflated:vt.合并;异文合并; political correctness:n.政治正确性;
And to them, callouts for civility are really very much like what George Orwell wrote in "1984" -- he called it " newspeak ." 对他们来说,呼吁“civility”（文明） 非常类似于乔治·奥威尔在《1984》 中描写的, 他称之为“新话”的现象。
callouts:标注;标注系统;标注文字; newspeak:n.新话(模棱两可的政治宣传语言);
And this was an attempt to change the way we talk by forcibly changing the language that we use. 所谓“新话”即试图通过强行改变 我们使用的语言 来改变我们说话的方式,
attempt:n.企图,试图;攻击;v.企图,试图;尝试; forcibly:adv.用力地;强制地;有说服力地;
To change our ideas by changing the meaning of words. 通过改变词语的意思来改变我们的思想。
And I think my dinner host might have had some of that rattling around there. 我那个喋喋不休的晚宴女主人 大概就有点儿指责这一现象的意思。
rattling:v.很; adj.格格地响的; v.发出咔嗒咔嗒的声音; (rattle的现在分词)
And I first personally understood, though, the right's problem with civility when I wrote a column about then-candidate Donald Trump . 我第一次亲身理解到 右派与“civility”（文明）之间的冲突是在 当我写一篇关于当时是候选人 的唐纳德·特朗普的专栏时。
personally:adv.个人;亲自;本人;就本人而言; Trump:n.王牌;主牌花色;v.出王牌赢(牌);;赢;胜过;打败;
And he had just said he did not have time for total political correctness, and he did not believe the country did either. 他那时刚刚说过, 他没有时间去遵守完全的政治正确, 他也不认为美国有时间去遵守 完全的政治正确。
And I took that to heart, it was very -- 我把这个话铭记于心,它实在是……
The audience was very engaged about that online, as you can imagine. 人们就此在网络上非常积极地展开讨论, 你们可以想象。
engaged:adj.已订婚的; v.吸引住; (engage的过去分词和过去式)
There was a thousand responses , and this one stood out to me because it was representative : "Political correctness is a pathological system that lets liberals dominate a conversation, label , demonize and shout down the opposition ." 当时有成百上千的回复, 而这一回复在我看来非常醒目。 因为它非常具有代表性。 “政治正确性是一个病态的系统, 它让自由主义者占谈话的主导地位, 并通过标签化和妖魔化来打压反对派。”
responses:n.回答,答复;反应;响应;(response的复数) representative:n.代表; adj.典型的; pathological:adj.病理学的;病态的;由疾病引起的(等于pathologic); liberals:n.自由主义者(liberal的复数); dominate:vt.控制;支配;占优势;在…中占主要地位;vi.占优势;处于支配地位; label:n.标签;标记;谓;唱片公司;v.贴标签于;用标签标明; demonize:v.妖魔化;使…成为魔鬼; shout down:大声喊叫以压倒对方; opposition:n.反对党;对立;在野党;对抗;
So I think, to the right, civility translates into censure . 所以,我认为对右派来说,“civility”(文明) 意味谴责。
censure:vt.责难,责备;n.责难;vi.谴责,责备;
So that's the right. 总之,这就是右派。
Now, my friends on the left also have a problem with it. 不过,我的左派朋友们对于“civility“（文明） 也有不满。
And for example, there have been those who have harassed Trump administration officials who support the President's border wall. 比如说,有的左派人士, 他们曾骚扰那些支持总统 在边境建围墙的 特朗普政府官员们。
harassed:adj.疲惫焦虑的;v.侵扰;骚扰;不断攻击(敌人);(harass的过去分词和过去式)
They've been called out as rude, they've been called out as nasty , they've been called out as worse. 他们被指责为粗鲁,讨人厌, 或者更糟糕的词。
nasty:adj.极差的:令人厌恶的:不友好的:n.令人不愉快的事物:
And after one such incident last year, even the Washington Post -- you know, left-leaning Washington Post -- wrote an editorial and sided with decorum. 去年在一个冲突发生后, 甚至连华盛顿邮报, 你们懂的,左倾的华盛顿邮报, 写了一篇社论,呼吁克己复礼。
left-leaning:adj.左倾的; editorial:adj.编辑的;社论的;n.社论;
And they argued that officials should be allowed to dine in peace. 他们主张政府官员们 应该被允许安心地吃晚饭。
dine:v.进餐;用饭;
Hm. 嗯……
'"You know, the wall is the real incivility here. “要知道,在这件事里, 围墙才是真正的不文明。
incivility:n.无礼貌;
The tear-gassing of kids, the separation of families." 向儿童发射催泪瓦斯,拆散家庭。”
separation:n.分离;分开;分割;隔离;
That's what the protestors say. 抗议者们是这么说的。
protestors:n.抗议者;
And imagine if we had sided, in this country, with decorum and courtesy throughout our history. 想象一下会怎样,如果在这个国家, 从往至今, 我们一直都支持遵守礼节。
courtesy:n.礼貌;好意;恩惠;adj.殷勤的;被承认的;出于礼节的; throughout:adv.自始至终,到处;全部;prep.贯穿,遍及;
You know, I think about the suffragettes . 我想到了妇女参政论者。
suffragettes:妇女参政权论者(suffragette的复数);
They marched, they picketed . 她们游行,她们抗议。
picketed:n.警戒哨;纠察队;[建]尖木桩;vt.派…担任纠察;用尖桩围住;vi.担任纠察;
They were chastised , they were arrested for pursuing the vote for women in the 1920s. 在20世纪20年代, 她们因为追求妇女的投票权, 而被惩罚,被逮捕。
chastised:vt.惩罚;严惩;责骂; pursuing:v.追求;致力于;贯彻;跟踪;追赶;(pursue的现在分词)
You know, I also think about the Reverend Martin Luther King Jr., the father of American nonviolent civil disobedience . 我还想到了马丁·路德·金牧师, 美国非暴力公民不服从运动之父。
Reverend:n.牧师;adj.可敬的; nonviolent:adj.非暴力的;不使用暴力的; civil disobedience:n.非暴力反抗;温和抵抗;不合作主义;
He was labeled as uncivil in his attempt to promote racial and economic justice . 他在努力促进种族和经济公平正义时 被贴上了不文明的标签。
labeled:adj.有标签的; v.示踪; (label的过去分词和过去式) uncivil:adj.不文明的;粗野的;失礼的; promote:v.促进;推动;促销;提升;晋升; racial:adj.种族的;人种的; economic:adj.经济的,经济上的;经济学的; justice:n.公平;公正;司法制度;审判;
So I think you get a sense of why civility has become a problem, a dirty word, here. 所以我想你大概有点明白了, 为什么“civility”（文明）在这里变成了 一个问题,一个肮脏的字眼。
Now, does this mean we can't disagree, that we can't speak our minds? 这是否说我们不可以有不同的意见, 不可以表达我们的想法呢？
Absolutely not . 绝对不是。
Absolutely not:绝对不会;绝对不是;绝对不行;
I recently spoke with Dr. Carolyn Lukensmeyer. 我最近和卡洛琳?鲁肯斯梅尔博士交谈。
recently:adv.最近;新近;
She's kind of the guru of civility in this country, and the executive director of a body called the National Institute for Civil Discourse . 她可以说是这个国家的文明大师。 她同时也是一个叫 国家民声研究所的机构 的执行董事。
guru:n.古鲁(指印度教等宗教的宗师或领袖);领袖;专家; executive:n.管理人员; adj.经营管理的; Institute:v.开始(调查);制定;创立;提起(诉讼);n.学会,协会;学院; Discourse:n.论述;谈话;演讲;vi.演说;谈论;讲述;vt.说出;演奏出;
And she told me, "Civility does not mean appeasement or avoiding important differences. 她告诉我, “文明不是指采取绥靖政策或者 回避重要分歧,
appeasement:n.缓和,平息;姑息;
It means listening and talking about those differences with respect ." 而是指带着尊重的态度去倾听 和讨论这些分歧。”
with respect:怀有敬意;
In a healthy democracy , we need to do that. 在一个健康的民主制度中 我们需要这样做。
democracy:n.民主,民主主义;民主政治;
And I call that respectful engagement . 我将其称之为尊重的了解。
engagement:n.婚约;约会;交战;诺言;n.参与度;
But civil discourse also needs rules, it needs boundaries . 但是民声也需要规则和界限。
boundaries:n.边界;分界线;(boundary的复数)
For instance , there's a difference between language that is simply rude or demeaning , and speech that invokes hatred and intolerance . 比如说,单纯的粗鲁、贬低人的语言 不同于 激发仇恨和不容忍的言论。
instance:n.实例;情况;建议;v.举...为例; demeaning:adj.降低身份的;失去尊严的;v.降低身份;贬低;使失尊严;(demean的现在分词) invokes:(invoke的第三人称单数)vt.调用;祈求;引起;恳求; hatred:n.仇恨;憎恨;厌恶; intolerance:n.(尤指对别人的意见)不宽容;偏狭;
And specifically of groups. 尤其那些激发对整个群体的仇恨和 不容忍的言论。
specifically:adv.特别地;明确地;
And I'm thinking of racial and ethnic groups, 我在想种族与民族群体,
ethnic:adj.种族的;人种的;
I'm thinking of the LGBTQ community , 我在想LGBTQ社群,
community:n.社区;[生态]群落;共同体;团体;
I'm thinking of the disabled. 我在想残疾人群体。
We snowflakes call this speech "hate speech." 我们这些敏感细腻的人 称这种言论为仇恨言论。
snowflakes:n.雪花;雪片;(snowflake的复数)
And hate speech can lead to violence . 仇恨言论可以导致暴力。
violence:n.暴力;侵犯;激烈;歪曲;
So, to that point, in the fall of 2018, 2018年的秋季,
I wrote a column about Dr. Christine Blasey Ford . 我写了一篇关于克里斯汀·布拉西·福特博士 的专栏文章。
Ford:n.福特[姓氏];浅滩;v.涉(水);渡河;津渡;
You may remember her, she was one of the women who accused Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexual assault . 你们也许记得她。 她是指控最高法院大法官提名人 布雷特·卡瓦诺对其性侵 的女性之一。
accused:v.控告;控诉;谴责;(accuse的过去分词和过去式) Supreme Court:最高法院; nominee:n.被任命者;被提名的人;代名人; sexual assault:性侵犯;性暴行;
And among the responses, 在各种回复中,
I received this message, a personal message, which you can see here on the slide. 我收到了这条信息,一条私人信息。 在这张幻灯片上你们可以看到
It's been largely redacted . 许多内容都已经被删减。
largely:adv.主要地;大部分;大量地; redacted:v.编造;编辑;(redact的过去式和过去分词)
(Laughter) （笑声）
This message was 50 words long. 10 of them were the f-bomb. 这条信息含有50个词, 其中有10个都以F开头。
And the Democrats were called out, President Obama was called out, and I was referred to in a pretty darn vulgar and coarse way. 民主党人被提到了, 奥巴马总统被提到了。 我也被以一个相当让人难受、下流、 粗俗的方式提到了。
Democrats:n.民主党员(democrat的复数);民主主义者; referred:v.提到;引用;认为;指示;涉及;(refer的过去式和过去分词) darn:v.织补,缝补;n.织补; vulgar:adj.粗俗的;通俗的;本土的;n.平民,百姓; coarse:adj.粗糙的;粗织的;粗的;大颗粒的;
There was an explicit threat in that message, and that is why my editors at The Post sent it to authorities . 在那条信息中有一个公开的威胁。 正因如此,我在华盛顿邮报的编辑 把它发送给了官方。
explicit:adj.明确的;清楚的;直率的;详述的; authorities:n.权力;威权;职权;批准;(authority的复数)
This came shortly before the pipe bombs were sent to other media outlets , so everybody was really kind of on guard there. 这是在管道炸弹被寄到 其他媒体之前不久发生的, 所以每个人都相当警惕。
media:n.媒体;媒质(medium的复数);血管中层;浊塞音;中脉; outlets:n.出路;销售点;排水口;批发商点(outlet的复数形式);
And the larger context was, only a few months before, five staffers had been killed at a Maryland newspaper. 而更大的背景是,仅在几个月之前, 五个员工在马里兰的一家报社被杀害。
context:n.环境;上下文;来龙去脉; staffers:n.职员;编辑;采访记者; Maryland:n.马里兰(美国州名);
They had been shot dead by a reader with a grudge . 他们被一个有怨恨的读者枪杀了。
grudge:vt.怀恨;吝惜;妒忌;不情愿做;n.怨恨;恶意;妒忌;
'"Shut up or else." “闭嘴,不然的话。”
And it was around that same time that a different reader of mine started stalking me online. 大概是在同一时间, 我的另一位读者开始在网上跟踪我。
And at first, it was ... 刚开始的时候,情况比较……
I'll call it light and fluffy . 我会说比较轻微。
fluffy:adj.蓬松的;松软的;毛茸茸的;无内容的;
It was around this time last year and I still had my Christmas decorations up and he sent me a message saying, "You should take your Christmas decorations down." 然后大概是去年的这个时候, 我还没有撤掉我的圣诞节装饰。 他给我发一条信息说: “你应该把你的圣诞节装饰撤下来了”。
decorations:n.装饰品;装饰图案;装饰风格;(decoration的复数)
And then he noticed that my dog was off leash one day, and then he commented that I had gone to the market. 接着他提醒我有一天我的狗没拴好绳子, 再接着他评论说我之前去过市场。
leash:n.皮带;束缚;v.束缚;用皮带绑住;
And then he wrote me one that said, "If anyone were to shoot and kill you, it would not be a loss at all." 之后他给我发一条信息告诉我: “如果任何人想要给你几枪杀了你, 完全没有任何损失可言 ”。
I wish that were the end of the story. 我希望这就是故事的结尾。
Because then, a few months later, he came to my door, my front door, in a rage and tried to break the door down. 因为几个月之后,他愤怒地冲到我家门前,正门前, 试图破门而入。
I now own mace , a security system and a Louisville Slugger baseball bat. 现在我有自己的催泪喷雾,保安系统 和一根路易斯维尔·斯拉格的棒球棒。
mace:n.狼牙棒;权杖; Louisville:n.路易斯维尔(美国肯塔基州城市); Slugger:n.打击力强的选手;重击者;
(Sighs) （叹息）
'"Shut up or else." “闭嘴,不然的话。”
So, what's to be done to forestall civility from turning ugly , from turning violent? 那么,我们应该做些什么 才能防止文明变得丑陋,变得暴力呢？
forestall:vt.先发制人,预先阻止;垄断,屯积;领先;占先一步; ugly:adj.丑陋的;邪恶的;令人厌恶的;
My first rule is to deescalate language. 我的第一条规则是给语言降级。
deescalate:v.逐步降(级);缩小(冲突范围);
And I've stopped using trigger words in print. 在我的文章里我已经不再使用触发词了。
trigger:n.触发器; v.触发;
And by trigger words, I mean " homophobe ," I mean " racist ," 所谓触发词,我指的是“仇同性恋者”, 我指“种族主义者”,
homophobe:憎恶同性恋的人; racist:n.种族主义者;种族主义的;
I mean " xenophobe ," I mean " sexist ." 我指“仇外者” ,我指“性别歧视者”。
xenophobe:n.仇外;害怕生人者;畏惧和憎恨外国人的人; sexist:n.性别歧视者;男性至上主义者;adj.性别主义者的;性别歧视者的;
All of those words. 所有的这些词,
They set people off. 它们都会触发、引爆人们的情绪。
They're incendiary and they do not allow us to find common ground . 它们具有煽动性。 它们阻止我们找到共同点。
incendiary:n.燃烧弹;纵火犯,放火者;煽动者;adj.煽动的;放火的,纵火的; common ground:n.共同点;
They do not allow us to find a common heart. 它们阻止我们找到共同心。
And so to this point, when John McCain died in 2018, his supporters noted that he never made personal attacks. 当约翰·麦凯恩在2018年过世时, 他的支持者们指出他从来没有 进行过个人攻击,
supporters:n.拥护者;(运动队的)支持者;(supporter的复数)
But his opponents agreed as well, and I though that was what was really noteworthy . 而他的反对者们对此也没有异议。 我认为这一点非常难能可贵。
opponents:n.对手(opponent的复数形式); noteworthy:adj.值得注意的;显著的;
He challenged people's policies , he challenged their positions, but he never made it personal. 他挑战人们的政策,他挑战人们的立场, 但他从来不针对个人。
policies:n.政策;方针;原则;为人之道;保险单(policy的复数)
And so that's the second rule. 而这也正是我的第二条规则。
So the problem of civility is not only an American one. 文明的问题不是一个美国独有的问题。
In the Netherlands, there are calls for a civility offensive right now, and as one Dutch philosopher has put it, the country has fallen under a spell of "verhuftering." 在荷兰,现在正有人要求发起文明进攻。 正如一个荷兰哲学家所指出, 这个国家已经被下了一个叫 “verhuftering”的咒语。
offensive:n.进攻;攻势;攻击;侵犯;adj.冒犯的;得罪人的;无礼的; Dutch:adj.荷兰的; n.荷兰人; v.费用平摊地; philosopher:n.哲学家;深思的人;善于思考的人;
Now, this is not a word that I knew before and I did quite a bit of research. 这个词我之前是不认识的, 对此我做了相当多的功课。
It loosely means bullying and the disappearance of good manners. 它大致上可以理解为欺凌和 良好举止的消失。
loosely:adv.宽松地;放荡地;轻率地; bullying:n.仗势欺人者;横行霸道者;v.恐吓;伤害;胁迫;(bully的现在分词) disappearance:n.消失;不见;
It actually means much worse than that, but that's what I'm saying here. 它的实际意思还要糟糕许多, 但这是我在这里要说的。
When you have a specific word, though, to describe a problem like that, you know you really have a problem. 当你可以找到一个特定的词 来描述一个问题时, 你就知道了你的的确确是有一个问题。
describe:v.描述;形容;把…称为;画出…图形;
And in the United Kingdom , the [2016] Brexit vote ... 而在英国,2016年的脱欧投票,
United Kingdom:n.英国; Brexit:英国退出欧盟;
you know, has divided a nation even more so. 你们知道,更是分化了一个国家。
And one critic of the breakup called those who favor it -- 一个批评英国脱欧的人 把那些支持脱欧的人称作,
critic:n.评论家;反对者;批评者;
I just love this phrase -- "the frightened parochial lizard brain of Britain." 我超喜欢这个表达, “英国狭隘受惊的蜥蜴脑”。
frightened:adj.害怕的;受惊的;惊吓的;v.使惊吓;使惊恐;(frighten的过去分词和过去式) parochial:adj.教区的;狭小的;地方范围的; lizard:n.蜥蜴;类蜥蜴爬行动物;
The frightened parochial lizard brain of Britain. 英国狭隘受惊的蜥蜴脑,
That's personal. 这是针对个人的。
And it makes me miss "Downton Abbey " 它让我怀念起《唐顿庄园》
Abbey:n.大修道院,大寺院;修道院中全体修士或修女;
and its patina of civility. 和里面文明的气息。
patina:n.[材]铜绿;光泽;神态;圣餐盘;
But therein lies the third rule: don't mistake decorum for civility. 但那里藏着第三条规则: 不要错把繁文缛节当做文明。
therein:adv.在其中;在那里;
Even if you have a dowager countess as fabulous as Dame Maggie Smith. 即便是由玛吉·史密斯女爵士来 扮演惊艳的老伯爵夫人。
dowager:n.贵妇;继承亡夫爵位的遗孀;老年贵妇人; countess:n.伯爵夫人;女伯爵; fabulous:adj.难以置信的;传说的,寓言中的;极好的; Dame:n.夫人;年长妇女;
(Laughter) （笑声）
[Don't be defeatist . It's so middle class .] [别当一个失败主义者,那样太中产阶级了。]
defeatist:n.失败主义者;adj.失败主义(者)的; middle class:adj.中产阶级的;中层社会的;
So let me end with one last story. 让我用最后一个故事来收尾。
Not that long ago, I was at a bakery , and they make these amazing scones . 不久前,我在一个面包店, 里面出售非常美味的司康饼。
bakery:n.面包店; scones:n.烤饼,司康饼(常抹黄油、果酱、奶油等,有时内夹干果);(scone的复数)
So, long line -- there are a lot of scones. 排队的人很多,司康饼也很多。
And one by one , the scones were disappearing until there was one woman in between me and that last scone. 但是一个接着一个,司康饼不断消失。 等到我前面排队的还剩一位女士的时候, 司康饼也只剩下一个了。
one by one:一个接一个; disappearing:v.消失;不复存在;灭绝;丢失(disappear的现在分词)
(Laughter) （笑声）
Praise the Lord , she said, "I'll have a croissant ." 谢天谢地,她说:“我要个羊角面包。”
Lord:n.(英国)贵族,大人,大臣;v.使成贵族;作威作福; croissant:n.羊角面包;(法)新月形面包;
(Laughter) （笑声）
So when it became my turn, I said, "I'll take that scone." 所以等轮到我的时候,我说:“我要那个司康饼。”
The guy behind me -- 站在我后面的那个男人,
I'd never turned around, never seen him -- he shouted, "That's my scone! 我本来绝对不会转过身看他。 他大叫道:“那是我的司康饼！
I've been waiting in line 20 minutes." 我已经排队排了20分钟了。”
And I was like, "Who are you? 我当时想:“你是谁啊？
I've been waiting in line 20 minutes, and you're behind me." 我也排队排了20分钟, 而且你排在我后面。”
So, I grew up here in New York, and went to high school not that far from here. 我在纽约这里长大, 我的高中离这里不远。
And I may seem, you know, very civil here and so on, but I can hip check anybody for a taxicab in this room, on these streets. 我也许看起来,你们知道, 很文明什么的。 但我可以用屁股功和这间屋子里的任何一个人 在马路上抢一辆计程车。
taxicab:n.出租车;
So I was surprised when I said to this guy ... 所以当我对那个男人脱口而出 “你想要一半吗？”
'"Would you like half?" “你想要一半吗？”的时候,
'"Would you like half?" 我自己非常惊讶。
I didn't think about it, it just came out. 我根本想都没想, 那句话就这么从我嘴里冒出来了。
And then, he was very puzzled , and I could see his face change and he said to me, "Well, how about if I buy another pastry and we'll share both of them?" 结果,他也猛地楞了一下, 我可以看见他神情的变化。 接着他对我说: “这么着吧,你看我再买个其他的糕点, 然后我们一起分享两个糕点怎么样？”
puzzled:adj.困惑的;茫然的;搞糊涂的; pastry:n.油酥点心;面粉糕饼;
And he did, and we did. 结果他真另外买了一个糕点, 我们也真一起分享了两个糕点。
And we sat and talked. 我们坐了下来开始聊天。
We had nothing in common. 我们没有任何共同点。
(Laughter) （笑声）
We had nothing in common: nationality, sexual orientation , occupation . 我们没有任何共同点:国籍,性取向,职业。
orientation:n.方向;定向;适应;情况介绍;向东方; occupation:n.职业;占领;占用;工作;
But through this moment of kindness, through this moment of connection, we developed a friendship, we have stayed in touch. 但是通过这个善意的瞬间, 通过这个衔接的瞬间, 我们发展起了一段友谊, 我们现在还保持联系。
(Laughter) （笑声）
Although he was appalled to learn that I'm called the Civilist after that. 虽然说当他后来得知 我被称为文明主义者时相当惊恐。
appalled:adj.震惊; v.使大为震惊; (appal的过去分词和过去式)
(Laughter) （笑声）
But I call this the joy of civility. 但我将这样的经历称为文明的乐趣。
The joy of civility. 文明的乐趣。
And it led me to wonder, what is the good we forgo , not just the trouble we avoid, when we choose to be uncivil. 它引导我去思忖这样一个问题: 当我们选择不文明的时候, 在避免了一些麻烦的同时, 我们错过了什么好处？
forgo:vi.放弃; vt.放弃;
And by good, I mean friendship, I mean connection. 所谓好处,我指友谊,我指衔接,
I mean sharing 1000 calories . 我指分享1000卡路里。
calories:n.[物]卡路里(热量单位,calorie的复数);
But I also mean it in a larger way. 但我也指一些更大意义上的好处。
You know, as communities and as a country and as a world. 作为社区,作为一个国家, 作为一个世界,
communities:n.社区;社会;团体;共有(community的复数)
What are we missing out on? 我们错过了什么？
So, today, we are engaged in a great civil war of ideas and identity. 今天,我们正在围绕思想和身份 展开一场重大内战。
engaged in:从事于;忙于;
And we have no rules for them. 而我们没有规则可循。
You know, there are rules for war. 你们知道,战争是有规则的。
Think about the Geneva Conventions . 想一想日内瓦公约,
Conventions:n.[法]惯例;会议;[计]约定(convention的复数);
They ensure that every soldier is treated humanely , on and off the battlefield . 公约确保每个士兵都得到人道待遇, 无论是在战场上还是下了战场。
treated:v.以…态度对待;把…看作;(treat的过去分词和过去式) humanely:adv.人道地;富人情地;慈悲地; battlefield:n.战场;沙场;斗争的领域;容易引发冲突的情况
So, frankly, I think we need a Geneva Convention of civility, to set the rules for discourse for the parameters of that. 所以,直白地说, 我认为我们需要一个日内瓦文明公约。 来给时下的辩论提供一套制约规则,
Geneva Convention:n.日内瓦公约(有关战俘待遇的国际协定); parameters:n.决定因素;规范;范围;(parameter的复数)
To help us become better citizens of our communities and of our countries. 来帮助我们成为我们的社区和 我们的国家的更好的公民。
And if I have anything to say about it, 如果关于这个公约我有什么要说的,
I would base those rules on the original definition of civility, from the Latin and from the French. 我会要求把所有规则建立在 “civility”（文明）的本意上, 来自于拉丁语和法语的本意。
Civility: citizens willing to give of themselves for the greater good. 那就是: 愿意为了更大的利益,
For the good of the city. 为了城市的利益而奉献自己的公民。
So I think civility, with that understanding, is not a dirty word. 所以我想,如果我们这样理解“civility”（文明）, 它便不再是一个肮脏的词。
And I hope the civilist will not become, or will not stay, obsolete. 我希望文明主义者不要过时,或者继续过时。
Thank you. 谢谢。
(Applause) (掌声)