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KathyMendias_2020S-_哭泣其实有着振夺心情的力量_-
According to the American Academy of Ophthalmology , we create 15 to 30 gallons of tears a year. 根据美国眼科医学会的说法, 我们每年会产生出 十五到三十加仑的眼泪。
I am what you would call a high-volume producer. 我就是所谓的大量生产者。
Now even though we do create less tears as we age, 虽然随着年龄增长, 我们产生的眼泪的确变少了,
I will have filled up 40 average-sized bath tubs . 我的眼泪也能装满 四十个一般大小的浴缸。
According to:根据,据说; Academy:n.学院;研究院;学会;专科院校; Ophthalmology:n.[眼科]眼科学; gallons:n.加仑;大量(gallon的复数);一加仑的容器; high-volume:adj.大容量; tubs:n.浴盆;桶;v.把…装入桶;为…洗盆浴;
Now crying in my early years? 我在早年时的哭泣？
Not something I would brag about. 我可不会拿来誇口。
When I was five, 五岁时,
I thought it was a good idea to practice writing my name on the side of the house. 我以为在房屋墙上 练习写自己的名字是个好主意。 房屋的外墙。
Outside the house. 房屋的外墙。
Momma didn't agree with me much. 老妈不太认同。[00:41]
brag:n.吹牛,自夸;v.吹牛,自夸; on the side of:拥护…;站在…一边;赞助; Momma:n.妈妈;
She handed me a toothbrush and said, "Here, scrub ." 她拿了牙刷给我,说: 「拿去,好好刷。」
So I did. 我照做了。
I'd sit at the dining room table for what seemed like an eternity . 我在餐桌前坐了 似乎无止尽的漫长时光,
I didn't want to eat my vegetables. 不想吃蔬菜。
You probably know the feeling. 你可能懂我的感觉。[00:53]
toothbrush:n.牙刷; scrub:n.矮树; v.用力擦洗; adj.矮小的; dining room:n.餐厅; eternity:n.来世,来生;不朽;永世;
I'd miss all my favorite shows and cry like crazy . 如果错过我最爱的节目, 我就会狂哭起来。
Crying was always associated with something bad. 哭泣总是和不好的事情连结在一起。
Fortunately , I grew up. 幸运的是,我长大了。
I stopped writing on the walls, started eating my vegetables, and I entered the wonderful world of motherhood . 我不再在墙上写字,也吃蔬菜了, 进入了美好的母亲世界。
like crazy:拼命地;发疯似的; associated:adj.有关联的; v.联想; (associate的过去分词和过去式) Fortunately:adv.幸运地; motherhood:n.母性;母亲身份;
And let me tell you, crying takes on a whole new meaning. 让我告诉你,哭泣有了全新的意义。
I was nine months pregnant and I was sitting on the couch , looking at the front door where my bags were packed, waiting for me, because I was hopeful that today would be the day. 怀胎九个月时,我坐在沙发上, 看着前门,我的包包已经 整理好放在门边等着, 因为我希望今天就是生产日。 因为我希望今天就是生产日。
I settle in a little bit more, and I think to myself, "You know, we can put humans into space, but we can't seem to figure out when a baby will be born." 我让自己更舒适一点, 我心想:「我们可以 把人类送上太空, 却似乎无法确定宝宝何时会出生。」
And then I feel this pressure build up in my chest, my throat get really tight, and I just burst into tears . 接着,我感到胸口越来越有压力, 我的喉咙变得很紧, 我就这样大哭出来。
pregnant:adj.怀孕的;富有意义的; couch:n.睡椅,长沙发;床;卧榻;v.蹲伏,埋伏;躺着; settle:v.定居;结算;停留;确定;n.高背长椅(老式木家具,有扶手,座下多带柜); burst into tears:突然哭起来;大笑;
And you know what? 你知道吗？我完全不知道为什么哭。
I had no idea why.
And not knowing why at the time, well, that just got me more upset , so I eventually was just upset for being upset. 那时,不知道为何而哭 反而让我更沮丧, 最终,我单纯是因为沮丧而沮丧。
I took a deep breath -- (Inhales) 我深深吸了一口气——（吸气）
and I let it out -- (Exhales) 接着吐气——（吐气）
Thought that would help, but no, it didn't. 我以为那样会有幫助, 但,不,没有用。
Then my brother walks in with his smirky grin and he says to me, "What's wrong with you?" 接着,我哥哥带着 诡秘的笑容走进来,[01:55]
upset:adj.沮丧; v.打乱; n.苦恼; (意外的)混乱; eventually:adv.最后,终于; smirky:adj.傻笑的,假笑的;得意地笑的; grin:v.咧嘴笑;露齿而笑;咧着嘴笑;n.咧着嘴笑;露齿的笑;
I said, "Nothing, just leave me alone ." 我说:「没什么,别管我。」
And he did, he ran as fast as he could. 他真的就不管我了,全速离开。
And you know what I did when he left. 你知道当他离开后我做了什么吗？
I cried even harder. 我哭得更用力。
I was ashamed and embarrassed , just like when I was a kid. 我感到羞耻和不好意思, 就像我小时候一样。[02:10]
leave me alone:走开;别理我;别管我; ashamed:adj.惭愧;尴尬;因惭愧而不情愿; embarrassed:adj.尴尬的;窘迫的;v.使...局促不安;(embarrass的过去分词和过去式)
Now lucky for me, 我好幸运,这种盯着门边 包包的日子只再持续了九天,
I only had to look at that bag sitting by the front door for another nine days, right before my expected date of delivery . 然后才到了预产期。 然后才到了预产期。
And finally , my body said it was time. 终于,我的身体说,时候到了。
And after 18 hours of feeling my body try to expel this little human that weighed about the size of a bowling ball, and hours of pushing so hard that I thought for sure this baby was stuck, within a heartbeat , my beautiful baby girl Jennifer entered the world. 有十八个小时的时间, 我感受到我的身体 我用力挤了好几个小时, 心想这个宝宝肯定是卡住了, 突然间, 我美丽的宝贝女儿珍妮佛 进入了这个世界。
delivery:n.[贸易]交付;分娩;递送; finally:adv.终于;最终;(用于列举)最后;彻底地; expel:v.把…开除(或除名);驱逐出境;排出;喷出; heartbeat:n.心跳;情感;
And I looked at her, and she cried and then I just cried. 我看着她,她哭了, 接着,我也哭了。
All of that emotion and pressure that I had inside just seconds before was immediately replaced with the most joyous sense of relief that I had ever felt. 几秒之前我还能感受到 内在的情绪和压力, 立刻被我这辈子最喜悦的
And after nine months of crying over these fears and anxieties and crazy out-of-control hormones , that was instantaneously transformed into the deepest, most heartfelt , happiest cry of my life. 经过九个月不断因为这些恐惧和焦虑 还有大大失控的荷尔蒙而哭泣之后, 我的哭泣马上转变成了我人生中
emotion:n.强烈的感情;激情;情感; joyous:adj.令人高兴的;充满欢乐的(等于joyful); relief:n.救济;减轻,解除;安慰;浮雕; out-of-control:adj.失控; hormones:n.[生理]激素;荷尔蒙;性激素;荷尔蒙制剂(hormone的复数); instantaneously:adv.即刻;突如其来地; transformed:v.使改变形态;使改变外观(或性质);(transform的过去分词和过去式) heartfelt:adj.衷心的;真诚的;真心真意的;
And I had no control. 且我无法控制。
Those really hard tears, those happy tears, those overwhelming joyful tears, they had nowhere to go but out. 那些真的很实在的眼泪, 那些快乐的眼泪, 那些让我无法招架的喜悦眼泪, 它们无处可去,只能涌出眼眶。
And it was those tears, that moment, that incredible high, that inspired me to birth three more little miracles and start to help others have their own. 正是那些眼泪,那个时刻, 那无法言喻的快感, 鼓励我再将三个小小奇迹带到世上, 并开始协助他人拥有自己的孩子。
overwhelming:adj.势不可挡的; v.压倒; (overwhelm的现在分词) joyful:adj.欢喜的;令人高兴的; nowhere:v.无处; n.无处; adj.不存在的; incredible:adj.难以置信的,惊人的; inspired:adj.受到启发的; v.鼓舞; (inspire的过去分词和过去式) miracles:n.奇迹;奇人;不平凡的事;(miracle的复数)
I became a childbirth educator, and I started a whole new relationship with tears. 我变成了教导分娩的教育家, 我也展开了和眼泪的全新关系。
It was early in my 30 years of teaching, 在我三十年教育职涯的前期,
I had a class touch my heart like no other. 有个班级独一无二地触动我心。
The topic for the night -- emotions of pregnancy , go figure. 当晚的主题—— 怀孕的情绪——居然有这种事。
And it was important for the class to first learn about the emotional changes and responses during pregnancy, and how when we cry, it can feel like the body's trying to push out that extra emotion, almost like it's processing what it can't hold inside. 对这班而言,重要的是要先了解 在怀孕期间的情绪改变和反应, 及当我们哭泣时,感觉就像是身体 几乎就像是身体在设法处理 它内在容不下的东西。[04:00]
childbirth:n.分娩; emotions:n.强烈的感情;激情;情感;(emotion的复数) pregnancy:n.怀孕;丰富,多产;意义深长; emotional:adj.情绪的;易激动的;感动人的; responses:n.回答,答复;反应;响应;(response的复数) extra:adj.额外的:n.额外的事物:adv.额外:另外: processing:v.加工;处理;审核;数据处理;v.列队行进;缓缓前进;(process的现在分词)
Like an exhaust port for extreme feelings of sadness, joy or even relief after days, years of anticipation of that one magical moment. 就像是个排气孔,把那些悲伤、
It can literally feel like your body is squeezing out all that emotion in the form of water coming from our eyes. 感觉真的就像是你的身体 要把所有的情绪挤出来, 挤出来的形式就是从眼睛流出的水。
Our tears. 我们的眼泪。
Now tears were always expected during my classes. 在我的班上,会有眼泪是意料之中。
exhaust:v.耗尽; n.(车辆、发动机或机器排出的)废气; extreme:adj.极端的;极度的;偏激的;尽头的;n.极端;末端;最大程度;极端的事物; anticipation:n.希望;预感;先发制人;预支; literally:adv.按字面:字面上:确实地: squeezing:v.挤压;捏;榨出,挤出,拧出;(squeeze的现在分词)
Not mine this time, the new moms'. 这次不是我的眼泪, 是新手妈妈们的。
And this night in this class, it was way different. 那晚,在那个班上, 状况大大不同。
I had just finished talking about the emotional changes of pregnancy and I went in to talk about the couvade syndrome . 我刚谈完怀孕期间的情绪改变, 我接着开始谈拟娩症候群。
Now the word "couvade" comes from a French term, "couver," 「拟娩」这个词来自 法文的「couver」,
which means "to brood ," 意思是「庇护」,
similar to birds protecting a nest. 就像鸟类会保护鸟巢。
Well, who better to protect this nest than the expecting mother's partner? 有谁比待产妈妈的伴侣 更适合来保护这个巢？[05:03]
couvade:n.拟娩;父代母育风俗; syndrome:n.[临床]综合征;综合症状;并发症状;校验子;并发位; brood:vt.孵;沉思;n.一窝;一伙;
Also called a sympathetic pregnancy, the couvade syndrome is a real-life phenomenon , where the non-pregnant partner can take on pregnancy characteristics like mood swings, loss of sleep, weight gain 拟娩症候群也叫感性妊娠, 它是种确实会发生的现象, 没有怀孕的伴侣会出现怀孕的特征, 比如心情摆荡、失眠、 增重,有些情况
and for some, a really intense drive to do something new and unexpected , like buy a new sports car or start a new hobby like gourmet cooking. 会有非常强烈的冲动 想要去做新的、未预期的事, 比如买一台新跑车, 或者发展新嗜好,如美食烹饪。
The class usually laughs a little bit after that and that's it. 在谈到这些之后, 全班通常会笑一笑, 就这样,那晚就结束了。
sympathetic:adj.同情的;赞同的;和谐的;n.交感神经;容易感受的人; real-life:adj.现实的;实在的; phenomenon:n.现象;杰出的人;非凡的人(或事物); characteristics:n.特征;特点;品质;(characteristic的复数) mood:n.情绪,语气;心境;气氛; intense:adj.强烈的;紧张的;非常的;热情的; unexpected:adj.意外的,想不到的; sports car:n.跑车; gourmet:n.美食家;菜肴精美的;
We end the night. 但那天却不是如此。
But it didn't end there. 但那天却不是如此。
When I finished my sentence, this big, burly father-to-be stands up, and I thought for sure he was leaving. 我说完话之后, 有位高大魁梧的准爸爸站起来, 我很肯定地认为他是要离开了。
But instead, in a really gruff , commanding way, he says, "Alright, you guys, how many of you have cried during this thing, you know, her pregnancy?" 但,他反而用一种很粗鲁 且居高临下的方式说道: 「好,各位,有多少人 曾经在这期间哭过？ 在她怀孕期间？」
burly:adj.结实的;率直的;粗鲁的; gruff:adj.粗暴的; vt.生硬地说; vi.粗鲁地说; n.格拉夫(英国珠宝品牌);
I scan the class to make sure everybody was OK. 我的视线扫过全班, 确保大家都还好。
They were fine, they were just very intent on what was going to happen next. 他们很好,只是非常急切 想知道接下来会发生什么事。
And then, one gentleman raises his hand and says, "I have." 接着,有位男士举手, 说:「我哭过。」
And then another, and the stories just flowed. 接着,又有另一位, 各种故事就这样涌出。
Even this really quiet gal -- she was the fiancee of one of the expecting moms -- she looks at her and she says, "See? I told you my crying was normal too." 就连一个非常安静的女子—— 她是其中一位准妈妈的未婚妻—— 她看着她,说: 「看到了吧？我告诉过你, 我哭也是正常的。」
intent on:专心致志于;抱定决心要实行; fiancee:n.(法)未婚妻;
The class connected, they validated each other, and we all walked away with a new respect for the non-pregnant partners that night. 全班连结起来了, 他们彼此验证, 那晚,所有人离开时, 对未怀孕的伴侣都有了新的看法。
For me, that solidified my passion to embrace those tears. 对我来说,那件事让我 更坚定要去拥抱那些眼泪。
Then, it got better. 接着,还有更好的。
On the last night of that same six-week class, one of the expecting moms came up to me. 同样为期六周班级的最后一晚, 一位准妈妈来找我。
validated:v.证实;确认;使生效;批准;认可;(validate的过去分词和过去式) solidified:adj.凝固的;固化的,变硬的;v.凝固,团结(solidify的过去式和过去分词形式); passion:n.激情;热情;酷爱;盛怒; embrace:n.拥抱,怀抱;v.拥抱;乐意采纳(思想、建议等);信奉;包括;
She asked to talk to me privately , and I said of course, and we went into the corner. 她希望能和我私下谈,我说没问题, 我们两人便到角落去。
And she says, "I need to thank you for saving my relationship." 她说: 「你要谢谢你拯救了我的关系。」
I let her go on, and she tells me that her husband was considering leaving her over her mood swings, out-of-control crying, and his turmoil and anger over this pregnancy. 我让她继续说,她告诉我, 她先生本来在考虑要离开她, 因为她心情摆荡不定、 哭到无法控制, 且这段怀孕让他既混乱又生气。
privately:adv.私下地;秘密地; turmoil:n.混乱,骚动;
But he didn't leave. 但他没有离开。
She went on to tell me that they realized now it's OK to cry. 她接着告诉我,
And he had told her that when he cries, he doesn't feel as angry. 他告诉她, 就不会感到那么生气了。
Wow! 哇！
Not only did crying bring my class together, it kept that couple together. 哭泣不仅让我的班级凝聚起来, 也让那对夫妻保持凝聚。
And you know, his comment about anger was really, really intriguing to me, so I looked around, did some research, and sure enough, Dr. Oren Hasson, an evolutionary psychologist , 他对于生气的说法 让我感到非常好奇, 所以我四处找资讯,做了些研究, 果然,欧伦韩森博士, 他是演化心理学家,
he had some theories about when tears blur our vision , it really has the ability to, sometimes, reduce our ability to react to that anger. 他提出一些理论, 说明当我们热泪盈眶时, 真的有时候会
But the tears weren't the anger. 但,眼泪并不是怒气。
They were more like the release valve . 眼泪比较像是减压阀。
intriguing:adj.有趣的;迷人的;v.引起…的兴趣;策划阴谋;私通;(intrigue的现在分词) evolutionary:adj.进化的;发展的;渐进的; psychologist:n.心理学家,心理学者; blur:v.涂污;使…模糊不清;使暗淡;玷污;n.污迹;模糊不清的事物; vision:n.视力;美景;幻象;想象力;v.想象;显现;梦见; react:v.起反应;回应;(对食物等)有不良反应,过敏;起化学反应; release:v.释放;发射;让与;允许发表;n.释放;发布;让与; valve:n.阀;[解剖]瓣膜;真空管;活门;v.装阀于;以活门调节;
And though many of us, we try to keep those tears inside, but letting them out really may be the better move. 虽然有许多人试图 将眼泪压抑在内在, 但让眼泪流出来 可能会是更好的做法。
Keeping them inside can amplify our feelings of anger or sadness. 压抑在内可能会放大 我们的愤怒感或悲伤感。
And while we're releasing those tears, our hormones inside, they're on high alert , and we know this because of Dr. William Frey, a biochemist . 当我们释放出那些眼泪时, 我们内在的荷尔蒙处在高戒备状态, 我们会知道这一点, 是因为生物化学家威廉佛莱。
He found that inside of our emotional tears -- not our everyday, like, yawning tears, but our emotional tears -- there's high concentrations of stress hormones and leucine enkephalins , which, easier on my tongue, is endorphins . 他发现,在我们的情绪眼泪里面—— 不是日常的如呵欠眼泪, 而是我们的情绪眼泪—— 会有高浓度的压力荷尔蒙 和亮氨酸脑啡肽, 简单来说,就是脑内啡。
amplify:vt.放大,扩大;增强;详述;vi.详述; releasing:n.释放;松释动作;脱扣释放;v.释放;排放;(release的现在分词); alert:n.警报; adj.警觉的; v.向…报警; biochemist:n.生物化学家; yawning:v.打哈欠;非常宽;难以逾越;(yawn的现在分词) concentrations:n.关注点;[土壤]浓聚物(concentration的复数); leucine:n.[生化]亮氨酸;白氨酸; enkephalins:n.脑啡肽;胆啡肽;脑啡呔;脑腓肽;(enkephalin的复数) endorphins:n.[生化]内啡肽;脑内啡;内腓呔;安多芬;
And while our stress hormones are helping our bodies out, our endorphins, those feel-good chemicals , they're helping to act as a pain reliever to boost our mood. 我们的压力荷尔蒙功能 是在幫助我们的身体, 而我们的脑内啡,让我们 感觉很好的化学物质, 则是扮演止痛的角色, 让我们振作起来。
Now who wouldn't want that? 谁不会想要啊？
There are two triggers for the release of endorphins for most of us. 对大部分人而言,
Stress and pain. 压力和痛苦。
And for a woman giving birth, experiencing both stress and pain, endorphins, they are a gift. 对于生产的女性而言, 会经历到压力以及痛苦, 因此,脑内啡就像天赐的礼物。[09:03]
feel-good:感觉舒服,感觉良好; chemicals:n.化学制品;化学品;(chemical的复数) reliever:n.救济者;减压装置; boost:n.提高;增长;帮助;激励;v.使增长;使兴旺;偷窃; triggers:n.[电子]触发器;触发物(trigger的复数);v.引起(trigger的单三形式);引爆;
As the labor progresses, those endorphins will rise to help her with a potentially long labor. 随着分娩开始, 那些脑内啡会增加,协助母亲 渡过可能会很漫长的分娩。
As a result , the mom is better able to cope , and she can feel more alert and almost euphoric after the birth. 因此, 母亲就会比较能撑下去, 且在生产后会感到警觉 比较敏锐且心情愉快。
Crying is just awesome . 哭泣 真的很赞。
I wish there was a bigger word. 我希望还有更强大的字眼来形容。
potentially:adv.可能地,潜在地; As a result:结果; cope:v.处理;n.大圆衣; euphoric:adj.欣快的;精神愉快的; awesome:adj.令人敬畏的;使人畏惧的;可怕的;极好的;
Crying offers us an opportunity for physical relief, for intimacy between two individuals and ultimately , it promotes physical and mental well-being . 哭泣让我们的身体有机会放鬆, 有机会让两个人亲近, 最终, 它还能促进身心健康。
And as an expression of our most intense interior human experiences, there is no need to be embarrassed, no need to be ashamed and no need to run away. 它也是种表达方式, 表达我们最强烈的内在人类感受, 不用感到不好意思, 不用觉得羞耻, 也不用逃避。
We need to have a healthy relationship with crying and change the way we view tears. 我们需要和哭泣建立健康的关系, 并改变我们看待眼泪的方式。
physical:adj.[物]物理的;身体的;物质的;符合自然法则的;n.体格检查; intimacy:n.亲密;密切;关系密切;性行为; individuals:n.[经]个人;[生物]个体(individual的复数); ultimately:adv.最终;最后;归根结底;终究; promotes:v.促进;推动;促销;推销;提升;晋升;(promote的第三人称单数) mental:adj.精神的;脑力的;疯的;n.精神病患者; well-being:n.幸福;康乐; expression:n.表现,表示,表达; interior:n.内部;内陆;内地;里面;adj.内部的;里面的;
We see them as overwhelming and scary and confusing , when they're really beautiful, soothing and reassuring . 我们认为眼泪是让人无法招架的、 让人害怕的、让人困惑的, 但其实,眼泪很美丽, 很让人宽心和放心。
They're not to be seen as some screeching alarm bell that something is wrong but rather a natural functionality of our amazing bodies. 我们不该把眼泪视为 某种尖锐的警铃, 表示出问题了, 我们应该将眼泪视为 我们不可思议的身体 所提供的一种自然功能。
Crying is as essential to me as breathing. 对我而言,哭泣和呼吸一样重要。
confusing:adj.令人困惑; v.使糊涂; (confuse的现在分词) soothing:adj.抚慰的;使人宽心的;v.安慰;减轻痛苦;(soothe的现在分词) reassuring:adj.安心的;可靠的;鼓气的;v.使放心(reassure的现在分词); screeching:n.尖叫;[动力]发动机啸声;v.发出尖利刺耳的声音(screech的ing形式); functionality:n.功能;[数]泛函性,函数性; essential:n.要点;要素;实质;必需品;adj.完全必要的;必不可少的;极其重要的;本质的;
And now, if I'm caught crying on that couch by my wonderful husband, who has had to learn way more about crying than he ever wanted to, he doesn't run away. 我的好先生现在对哭泣的了解 比他想要的还要多很多, 当他再次发现我在沙发上哭泣时, 他不会再逃走了。
He'll ask me why I'm crying, and I'll let him know I just need my release. 他会问我为什么哭, 我会让他知道我只是需要释放一下。
He'll take my hand, and you know what I'll do? 他会握住我的手, 你知道我会做什么吗？ 我会全部解放出来。
I will let it all out.
And then I'm going to sink into that deep sense of intimacy and extraordinary sense of relief that only my tears can bring. 接着,我会沉浸到 以及超凡的放鬆感当中, 只有我的眼泪才能带来这些感受。
Thank you. 谢谢。
extraordinary:adj.非凡的;特别的;离奇的;临时的;特派的;