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I'm going to tell you a little bit about my TEDxHouston Talk. [00:12]
I woke up the morning after I gave that Talk with the worst vulnerability hangover of my life. [00:17]
vulnerability:n.易损性;弱点; hangover:n.宿醉;残留物;遗物;
And I actually didn't leave my house for about three days. [00:26]
The first time I left was to meet a friend for lunch. [00:31]
And when I walked in, she was already at the table. [00:35]
And I sat down, and she said, "God, you look like hell." [00:37]
I said, "Thanks. I feel really -- [00:41]
I'm not functioning." [00:43]
And she said, "What's going on?" [00:46]
And I said, "I just told 500 people that I became a researcher to avoid vulnerability. [00:48]
And that when being vulnerable emerged from my data, as absolutely essential to whole-hearted living, [00:57]
vulnerable:adj.易受攻击的,易受…的攻击;易受伤害的;有弱点的; emerged:v.(从隐蔽处或暗处)出现;暴露;露出真相;显现;(emerge的过去分词和过去式) absolutely:adv.绝对地;完全地; essential:n.要点;要素;实质;必需品;adj.完全必要的;必不可少的;极其重要的;本质的; whole-hearted:全心全意的;
I told these 500 people that I had a breakdown . [01:06]
breakdown:n.分解;损坏;分类;(关系)破裂;adj.专门修理故障的;
I had a slide that said Breakdown. [01:10]
At what point did I think that was a good idea?" [01:12]
(Laughter) [01:15]
And she said, "I saw your Talk live-streamed. [01:18]
It was not really you. [01:20]
It was a little different than what you usually do. [01:22]
different than:不同于;
But it was great." [01:24]
And I said, "This can't happen. [01:26]
YouTube, they're putting this thing on YouTube. [01:30]
And we're going to be talking about 600, 700 people." [01:32]
(Laughter) [01:36]
And she said, "Well, I think it's too late." [01:40]
And I said, "Let me ask you something." [01:43]
And she said, "Yeah." [01:45]
And I said, "Do you remember when we were in college and really wild and kind of dumb ?" [01:47]
dumb:adj.哑的,无说话能力的;不说话的,无声音的;
And she said, "Yeah." [01:51]
And I said, "Remember when we'd leave a really bad message on our ex-boyfriend's answering machine ? [01:53]
answering machine:n.电话答录机;
Then we'd have to break into his dorm room and then erase the tape?" [01:57]
dorm:n.(美口)宿舍; erase:vt.抹去;擦除;vi.被擦去,被抹掉;
(Laughter) [02:01]
And she goes, "Uh ... no." [02:03]
(Laughter) [02:06]
So of course, the only thing I could think of to say at that point was, "Yeah, me neither. [02:08]
That ... me neither." [02:13]
And I'm thinking to myself, "Brene, what are you doing? What are you doing? [02:17]
Why did you bring this up? Have you lost your mind? [02:22]
Your sisters would be perfect for this." [02:25]
So I looked back up and she said, "Are you really going to try to break in and steal the video before they put it on YouTube?" [02:29]
And I said, "I'm just thinking about it a little bit." [02:40]
(Laughter) [02:43]
She said, "You're like the worst vulnerability role model ever." [02:45]
role model:n.榜样;崇拜对象;
(Laughter) [02:49]
And then I looked at her and I said something that at the time felt a little dramatic , but ended up being more prophetic than dramatic. [02:52]
dramatic:adj.突然的;巨大的;令人吃惊的;激动人心的; prophetic:adj.预言的,预示的;先知的;
I said, "If 500 turns into 1,000 or 2,000, my life is over." [02:58]
(Laughter) [03:08]
I had no contingency plan for four million. [03:10]
contingency:n.偶然性;[安全]意外事故;可能性;[审计]意外开支;
(Laughter) [03:13]
And my life did end when that happened. [03:17]
And maybe the hardest part about my life ending is that I learned something hard about myself, and that was that, as much as I would frustrated about not being able to get my work out to the world, there was a part of me that was working very hard to engineer staying small, staying right under the radar . [03:20]
frustrated:adj.失意的,挫败的;泄气的;v.挫败;阻挠;(frustrate的过去式和过去分词) under the radar:坠入琴网;雷达之下;在雷达下;
But I want to talk about what I've learned. [03:45]
There's two things that I've learned in the last year. [03:47]
The first is vulnerability is not weakness. [03:51]
And that myth is profoundly dangerous. [03:59]
myth:n.神话;虚构的人,虚构的事; profoundly:adv.深刻地;深深地;极度地;
Let me ask you honestly -- and I'll give you this warning, [04:03]
I'm trained as a therapist , so I can out-wait you uncomfortably -- so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome -- how many of you honestly, [04:07]
therapist:n.临床医学家;治疗学家; uncomfortably:adv.不舒适地;不自在地;令人不快地; awesome:adj.令人敬畏的;使人畏惧的;可怕的;极好的;
when you're thinking about doing something vulnerable or saying something vulnerable, think, "God, vulnerability's weakness. This is weakness?" [04:17]
How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously ? [04:23]
synonymously:同义词的;同义的,含义相同的;
The majority of people. [04:26]
majority:n.大部分:大多数:多数票:成年人:
Now let me ask you this question: [04:28]
This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage? [04:30]
Vulnerability is not weakness. [04:40]
I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure , uncertainty . [04:43]
define:v.定义;使明确;规定; emotional:adj.情绪的;易激动的;感动人的; exposure:n.暴露;显露;揭露;面临; uncertainty:n.不确定,不可靠;
It fuels our daily lives. [04:51]
And I've come to the belief -- this is my 12th year doing this research -- that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage -- to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest. [04:53]
accurate:adj.精确的; measurement:n.测量;度量;长度;
One of the weird things that's happened is, after the TED explosion , [05:10]
weird:adj.奇怪的;奇异的;离奇的;n.命运;宿命;命运女神; explosion:n.爆炸;爆发;激增;
I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country -- everyone from schools and parent meetings to Fortune 500 companies. [05:14]
Fortune:n.财富;命运;运气;v.给予财富,偶然发生
And so many of the calls went like this, "Hey, Dr. Brown. We loved your TEDTalk. [05:23]
We'd like you to come in and speak. [05:27]
We'd appreciate it if you wouldn't mention vulnerability or shame." [05:29]
appreciate:v.欣赏;感激;感谢;理解;
(Laughter) [05:34]
What would you like for me to talk about? [05:38]
There's three big answers. [05:41]
This is mostly, to be honest with you, from the business sector : innovation , creativity and change. [05:43]
sector:n.部门;扇形,扇区;象限仪;函数尺;vt.把…分成扇形; innovation:n.创新,革新;新方法;
So let me go on the record and say, vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. [05:52]
birthplace:n.出生地;发源地;
(Applause) [06:01]
To create is to make something that has never existed before. [06:09]
There's nothing more vulnerable than that. [06:15]
Adaptability to change is all about vulnerability. [06:18]
Adaptability:n.适应性;可变性;适合性;
The second thing, in addition to really finally understanding the relationship between vulnerability and courage, the second thing I learned is this: [06:22]
in addition to:除…之外; finally:adv.终于;最终;(用于列举)最后;彻底地;
We have to talk about shame. [06:33]
And I'm going to be really honest with you. [06:38]
When I became a "vulnerability researcher" [06:40]
and that became the focus because of the TEDTalk -- and I'm not kidding. [06:44]
I'll give you an example. [06:49]
About three months ago, I was in a sporting goods store buying goggles and shin guards and all the things that parents buy at the sporting goods store. [06:51]
goggles:n.护目镜;风镜;游泳镜;v.瞪大眼睛看;(goggle的第三人称单数和复数) shin:n.胫骨;v.爬;攀;攀;快步走;
About from a hundred feet away, this is what I hear: "Vulnerability TED! Vulnerability TED!" [06:58]
(Laughter) [07:04]
I'm a fifth generation Texan. [07:12]
fifth generation:adj.第五代的;人工智能机的;n.第五代;
Our family motto is "Lock and load." [07:14]
motto:n.座右铭,格言;箴言;
I am not a natural vulnerability researcher. [07:17]
So I'm like, just keep walking, she's on my six. [07:22]
(Laughter) [07:26]
And then I hear, "Vulnerability TED!" [07:28]
I turn around, I go, "Hi." [07:32]
She's right here and she said, "You're the shame researcher who had the breakdown." [07:35]
(Laughter) [07:40]
At this point parents are, like, pulling their children close. [07:44]
'"Look away." [07:50]
And I'm so worn out at this point in my life, [07:54]
I look at her and I actually say, "It was a frickin' spiritual awakening ." [07:56]
spiritual:n.圣歌(尤指美国南部黑人的);adj.精神的,心灵的; awakening:n.醒悟; v.(使)醒来; adj.唤醒的;
(Laughter) [08:01]
(Applause) [08:03]
And she looks back and does this, "I know." [08:05]
And she said, "We watched your TEDTalk in my book club . [08:09]
book club:n.书友会(会员购书享受打折优惠);
Then we read your book and we renamed ourselves 'The Breakdown Babes .'" [08:14]
renamed:v.重新命名;给…改名;(rename的过去分词和过去式) Babes:n.婴儿;宝贝儿,心肝儿;有魅力的年轻女子;(babe的复数)
And she said, "Our tagline is: 'We're falling apart and it feels fantastic .'" [08:21]
tagline:n.标语;品牌口号; fantastic:奇异的,空想的
(Laughter) [08:27]
You can only imagine what it's like for me in a faculty meeting. [08:30]
faculty:n.科,系;能力;全体教员;
So when I became Vulnerability TED, like an action figure -- like Ninja Barbie, but I'm Vulnerability TED -- [08:37]
action figure:n.(仿影视等角色的)战士玩偶; Ninja:n.(受过偷窃技术专门训练被雇作间谍或刺客的)日本武士;n.忍者;
I thought, I'm going to leave that shame stuff behind, because I spent six years studying shame before I really started writing and talking about vulnerability. [08:46]
stuff:n.东西:物品:基本特征:v.填满:装满:标本:
And I thought, thank God, because shame is this horrible topic, no one wants to talk about it. [08:55]
horrible:可怕的,极讨厌的,
It's the best way to shut people down on an airplane . [09:00]
airplane:n.飞机;
'"What do you do?" "I study shame." "Oh." [09:02]
(Laughter) [09:04]
And I see you. [09:06]
(Laughter) [09:08]
But in surviving this last year, [09:14]
I was reminded of a cardinal rule -- not a research rule, but a moral imperative from my upbringing -- you've got to dance with the one who brung ya. [09:17]
reminded:v.提醒;使想起;(remind的过去分词和过去式) cardinal:n.红衣主教; adj.主要的,基本的; moral:n.寓意;品行;教益;adj.道德的;道义上的;道德上的;品行端正的; imperative:adj.重要紧急的; n.重要紧急的事; upbringing:n.教养;养育;抚育;
And I did not learn about vulnerability and courage and creativity and innovation from studying vulnerability. [09:31]
I learned about these things from studying shame. [09:39]
And so I want to walk you in to shame. [09:43]
Jungian analysts call shame the swampland of the soul. [09:47]
analysts:n.分析师;分析家;[分化]分析员(analyst的复数); swampland:n.沼泽地;
And we're going to walk in. [09:53]
And the purpose is not to walk in and construct a home and live there. [09:55]
construct:v.建造;创建;建筑;修建;n.概念;构筑物;结构体;建造物;
It is to put on some galoshes and walk through and find our way around. [09:59]
galoshes:n.胶套鞋;
Here's why. [10:08]
We heard the most compelling call ever to have a conversation in this country, and I think globally, around race, right? [10:12]
compelling:adj.引人入胜的; v.强迫; (compel的现在分词)
Yes? We heard that. [10:21]
Yes? [10:23]
Cannot have that conversation without shame, because you cannot talk about race without talking about privilege . [10:25]
privilege:n.特权;优待;v.给与…特权;特免;
And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame. [10:31]
paralyzed:adj.瘫痪的;麻痹的;v.使麻痹;使无力;使失去勇气(paralyze的过去分词);
We heard a brilliant simple solution to not killing people in surgery , which is have a checklist . [10:36]
solution:n.解决方案;溶液;溶解;解答; surgery:n.外科;外科手术;手术室;诊疗室; checklist:n.清单;检查表;备忘录;目录册;
You can't fix that problem without addressing shame, because when they teach those folks how to suture , they also teach them how to stitch their self-worth to being all-powerful . [10:42]
suture:n.缝合;缝合处;缝合用的线;vt.缝合; stitch:n.针脚,线迹;一针;vt.缝,缝合;vi.缝,缝合; self-worth:n.自我价值;自尊;自负; all-powerful:adj.全能的;
And all-powerful folks don't need checklists . [10:54]
checklists:n.清单(checklist的复数);
And I had to write down the name of this TED Fellow so I didn't mess it up here. [10:59]
mess:n.混乱;餐厅;杂乱;肮脏;v.使不整洁;弄脏;弄乱;随地便溺;
Myshkin Ingawale, [11:03]
I hope I did right by you. [11:05]
(Applause) [11:07]
I saw the TED Fellows my first day here. [11:10]
And he got up and he explained how he was driven to create some technology to help test for anemia because people were dying unnecessarily . [11:12]
technology:n.技术;工艺;术语; anemia:n.贫血;贫血症; unnecessarily:adv.不必要地;多余地;
And he said, "I saw this need. [11:20]
So you know what I did? I made it." [11:22]
And everybody just burst into applause , and they were like "Yes!" [11:24]
burst into:闯入;情绪的突然发作; applause:n.欢呼,喝采;鼓掌欢迎;
And he said, "And it didn't work. [11:27]
And then I made it 32 more times, and then it worked." [11:30]
You know what the big secret about TED is? [11:36]
I can't wait to tell people this. [11:38]
I guess I'm doing it right now. [11:40]
(Laughter) [11:42]
This is like the failure conference . [11:44]
conference:n.会议;研讨会;商讨会;体育协会(或联合会)
No, it is. [11:46]
(Applause) [11:48]
You know why this place is amazing? [11:51]
Because very few people here are afraid to fail. [11:54]
And no one who gets on the stage , so far that I've seen, has not failed. [11:58]
on the stage:在舞台上;现阶段;当演员;
I've failed miserably , many times. [12:02]
miserably:adv.贫困地;可悲地;糟糕地;非常不幸地;
I don't think the world understands that because of shame. [12:05]
There's a great quote that saved me this past year by Theodore Roosevelt. [12:10]
quote:v.引用;报价;举例说明;开价;为(企业的股份)上市;n.引用;
A lot of people refer to it as the "Man in the Arena " quote. [12:15]
refer:v.参考;涉及;提到;查阅; Arena:n.舞台;竞技场;
And it goes like this: "It is not the critic who counts. [12:18]
critic:n.评论家;反对者;批评者;
It is not the man who sits and points out how the doer of deeds could have done things better and how he falls and stumbles . [12:22]
doer:n.实干家;行为者; deeds:n.行为;行动;(尤指房产)契约,证书;(deed的复数) stumbles:n.错误;v.蹒跚;结巴(stumble的第三人称单数);
The credit goes to the man in the arena whose face is marred with dust and blood and sweat. [12:29]
marred:adj.被损毁的;v.损毁,损伤(mar的过去式);
But when he's in the arena, at best he wins, and at worst he loses, but when he fails, when he loses, he does so daring greatly ." [12:37]
greatly:adv.很,大大地;非常;
And that's what this conference, to me, is about. [12:50]
That's what life is about, about daring greatly, about being in the arena. [12:53]
When you walk up to that arena and you put your hand on the door, and you think, "I'm going in and I'm going to try this," [12:57]
shame is the gremlin who says, "Uh, uh. [13:02]
gremlin:n.小精灵,小鬼;麻烦;
You're not good enough. [13:06]
You never finished that MBA. Your wife left you. [13:08]
I know your dad really wasn't in Luxembourg , he was in Sing Sing. [13:11]
Luxembourg:n.卢森堡(卢森堡公国首都);卢森堡公国;
I know those things that happened to you growing up. [13:17]
I know you don't think that you're pretty enough or smart enough or talented enough or powerful enough. [13:20]
I know your dad never paid attention, even when you made CFO." [13:25]
Shame is that thing. [13:29]
And if we can quiet it down and walk in and say, "I'm going to do this," [13:32]
we look up and the critic that we see pointing and laughing, 99 percent of the time is who? [13:39]
Us. [13:46]
Shame drives two big tapes -- "never good enough" [13:49]
and, if you can talk it out of that one, "who do you think you are?" [13:53]
The thing to understand about shame is it's not guilt. [13:59]
Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. [14:01]
Shame is "I am bad." [14:04]
Guilt is "I did something bad." [14:06]
How many of you, if you did something that was hurtful to me, would be willing to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake?" [14:09]
hurtful:adj.造成损害的;
How many of you would be willing to say that? [14:15]
Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. [14:18]
Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake. [14:21]
There's a huge difference between shame and guilt. [14:25]
And here's what you need to know. [14:27]
Shame is highly , highly correlated with addiction , depression , violence , aggression , bullying , suicide , eating disorders . [14:29]
highly:adv.高度地;非常;非常赞许地; correlated:v.相互关联影响;相互依赖;(correlate的过去式和过去分词) addiction:n.瘾;嗜好;入迷; depression:n.沮丧;洼地;不景气;忧愁; violence:n.暴力;侵犯;激烈;歪曲; aggression:n.侵略;侵犯;攻击性;好斗情绪; bullying:n.仗势欺人者;横行霸道者;v.恐吓;伤害;胁迫;(bully的现在分词) suicide:n.自杀;自杀行为;自杀者;adj.自杀的;v.自杀;vi.自杀; disorders:n.无秩序,混乱; v.[电子]扰乱(disorder的单三形式);
And here's what you even need to know more. [14:39]
Guilt, inversely correlated with those things. [14:41]
inversely:adv.相反地;倒转地;
The ability to hold something we've done or failed to do up against who we want to be is incredibly adaptive . [14:46]
incredibly:adv.难以置信地;非常地; adaptive:adj.适应的,适合的;
It's uncomfortable, but it's adaptive. [14:53]
The other thing you need to know about shame is it's absolutely organized by gender . [14:59]
organized:adj.有组织的; v.组织; (organize的过去分词和过去式) gender:n.性别;
If shame washes over me and washes over Chris, it's going to feel the same. [15:04]
Everyone sitting in here knows the warm wash of shame. [15:10]
We're pretty sure that the only people who don't experience shame are people who have no capacity for connection or empathy . [15:13]
capacity:n.能力;容量;资格,地位;生产力; empathy:n.神入;移情作用;执着;
Which means, yes, I have a little shame; no, I'm a sociopath . [15:19]
sociopath:n.反社会的人;不爱社交的人;
So I would opt for, yes, you have a little shame. [15:23]
opt:vi.选择;
Shame feels the same for men and women, but it's organized by gender. [15:29]
For women, the best example I can give you is Enjoli the commercial : "I can put the wash on the line , pack the lunches, hand out the kisses and be at work at five to nine. [15:33]
commercial:adj.贸易的;商业的;赢利的;以获利为目的的;n.(电台或电视播放的)广告; on the line:处于危险中;模棱两可;在电话线上;
I can bring home the bacon , fry it up in the pan and never let you forget you're a man." [15:47]
bring home the bacon:成功;得胜;谋生;如愿以偿;养家糊口;维持生计;获得成功;
For women, shame is do it all, do it perfectly and never let them see you sweat. [15:53]
I don't know how much perfume that commercial sold, but I guarantee you, it moved a lot of antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds . [16:00]
perfume:n.香水;香味;v.洒香水于…;使…带香味; guarantee:n.保证;担保;保证人;保证书;抵押品;v.保证;担保; antidepressants:n.[药]抗抑郁药(antidepressant的复数形式);抗忧郁剂; anti-anxiety:抗焦虑; meds:n.药物:
(Laughter) [16:07]
Shame, for women, is this web of unobtainable , conflicting , competing expectations about who we're supposed to be. [16:11]
unobtainable:adj.难获得的;不能得到的; conflicting:adj.互相斗争的;相冲突的;v.冲突,抵触;(conflict的现在分词) competing:adj.相互冲突的;相互矛盾的;v.竞争;对抗;参加比赛;(compete的现在分词) expectations:n.预料;预期;期待;希望;指望;(expectation的复数) supposed:adj.误信的;所谓的;v.认为;假设;设想;(suppose的过去分词和过去式)
And it's a straight-jacket. [16:21]
For men, shame is not a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations. [16:23]
a bunch of:一群;一束;一堆;
Shame is one, do not be perceived as what? [16:28]
perceived:v.注意到;意识到;将…视为;认为;(perceive的过去式和过去分词)
Weak. [16:33]
I did not interview men for the first four years of my study. [16:35]
interview:n.接见,采访;面试,面谈;v.采访;接见;对…进行面谈;
And it wasn't until a man looked at me one day after a book signing, said, "I love what you have to say about shame, [16:38]
I'm curious why you didn't mention men." [16:42]
curious:adj.好奇的,有求知欲的;古怪的;爱挑剔的;
And I said, "I don't study men." [16:44]
And he said, "That's convenient ." [16:47]
convenient:adj.实用的;便利的;方便的;
(Laughter) [16:49]
And I said, "Why?" [16:52]
And he said, "Because you say to reach out, tell our story, be vulnerable. [16:54]
But you see those books you just signed for my wife and my three daughters?" [17:02]
I said, "Yeah." [17:06]
'"They'd rather me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall down. [17:08]
When we reach out and be vulnerable we get the shit beat out of us. [17:14]
And don't tell me it's from the guys and the coaches and the dads, because the women in my life are harder on me than anyone else." [17:19]
So I started interviewing men and asking questions. [17:29]
interviewing:v.对(某人)进行面试;(媒体)采访,访问;(interview的现在分词)
And what I learned is this: [17:33]
You show me a woman who can actually sit with a man in real vulnerability and fear, [17:36]
I'll show you a woman who's done incredible work. [17:40]
incredible:adj.难以置信的,惊人的;
You show me a man who can sit with a woman who's just had it, she can't do it all anymore, and his first response is not, "I unloaded the dishwasher ," [17:44]
response:n.响应;反应;回答; unloaded:adj.[电]空载的;v.卸货;解除…的负担;倾销;(unload的过去式和过去分词) dishwasher:n.洗碗工;洗碟机;
but he really listens -- because that's all we need -- [17:56]
I'll show you a guy who's done a lot of work. [18:01]
Shame is an epidemic in our culture. [18:03]
epidemic:n.流行病;蔓延;adj.传染病;流行性的;
And to get out from underneath it, to find our way back to each other, we have to understand how it affects us and how it affects the way we're parenting, the way we're working, the way we're looking at each other. [18:08]
underneath:prep.在…的下面;在…的支配下;n.下面;底部;adj.下面的;底层的;
Very quickly, some research by Mahalik at Boston College. [18:24]
Boston:n.波士顿(美国城市);
He asked, what do women need to do to conform to female norms ? [18:28]
conform:v.遵守;相一致;顺从;相符合; female:adj.女性的;雌性的;柔弱的,柔和的;n.女人;[动]雌性动物; norms:n.[标准]标准,规范;基准(norm复数形式);
The top answers in this country: nice, thin, modest and use all available resources for appearance . [18:31]
modest:adj.些许的;谦虚的; resources:n.[计][环境]资源; v.向…提供资金(resource的第三人称单数); appearance:n.外貌;外观;外表;
When he asked about men, what do men in this country need to do to conform with male norms, the answers were: always show emotional control, work is first, pursue status and violence. [18:40]
pursue:v.继续;从事;追赶;纠缠; status:n.地位;状态;情形;重要身份;
If we're going to find our way back to each other, we have to understand and know empathy, because empathy's the antidote to shame. [18:54]
antidote:n.[药]解毒剂;解药;矫正方法;
If you put shame in a Petri dish , it needs three things to grow exponentially : secrecy , silence and judgment . [19:02]
Petri dish:n.培养皿(作细菌培养等用的有盖玻璃碟); exponentially:adv.以指数方式; secrecy:n.保密;秘密;隐蔽; judgment:n.判断;裁判;判决书;辨别力;
If you put the same amount of shame in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive. [19:09]
douse:v.插入水中;弄湿;弄熄;脱掉(衣鞋等);;n.泼洒;
The two most powerful words when we're in struggle: me too. [19:14]
And so I'll leave you with this thought. [19:19]
If we're going to find our way back to each other, vulnerability is going to be that path. [19:22]
And I know it's seductive to stand outside the arena, because I think I did it my whole life, and think to myself, [19:31]
seductive:adj.有魅力的;性感的;引人注意的;
I'm going to go in there and kick some ass when I'm bulletproof and when I'm perfect. [19:37]
bulletproof:adj.防弹的;
And that is seductive. [19:43]
But the truth is that never happens. [19:45]
And even if you got as perfect as you could and as bulletproof as you could possibly muster when you got in there, that's not what we want to see. [19:48]
muster:vt.召集;对…进行点名;使振作;n.集合;检阅;点名册;集合人员;vi.召集;聚集;
We want you to go in. [19:58]
We want to be with you and across from you. [20:01]
And we just want, for ourselves and the people we care about and the people we work with, to dare greatly. [20:04]
So thank you all very much. I really appreciate it. [20:12]
(Applause) [20:15]